Home Sweet Homophobia

Remember when I came out and my Dad was "fine with it"?

Well, turns out he's changed his mind.

The most annoying thing is, he has ridiculous reasons for not liking my homosexual status.

Here is a list of some of the things he has recently said to me:

• "You're just ruining your life before it's even started in my opinion." - Yes, because having a gay lifestyle means your life is ruined. Just because it's not how you live, doesn't mean some people don't enjoy it.
• "If I find out someone's influenced you, I'll stab them. I don't care who it is." - Okay, a) You wouldn't stab anyone. In fact, you wouldn't touch someone gay: you're a fucking coward. And b) No one influenced me to be gay. Actually, that is the most absurd thing I've ever heard.
• "I don't think you're gay. I think you say you are because your friends are. You're doing it to be fashionable." - Yes Father, I also dye my hair ginger because my friend has ginger hair. (Sarcasm, by the way.) And fashionable? Yeah, constantly having homophobic comments hurled at me and people like me is extremely fashionable. Douche.
• "You can't tell anyone in our town. You won't even be able to walk down the street." - I don't know how you haven't noticed that around 30% of our town's population is gay or bisexual. And also, everyone in Tuxford already knows I'm a raging dyke and not once have I felt insecure whilst walking down the street.

There are other things he's said, but those are a few of the most recent ones. Ridiculous, right?

However, I have an awesome Mother who accepts me for who I am. I love her.

The motto of the story? Don't let anyone tell you who or what to be. Be yourself, always.

I COME OUT!

Yeah. I've given you 3 celesbian outings this year, and the fourth one is mine!

That's right, I came out to my parents yesterday.

I'm pretty much already out to everyone else anyway: members of my family and my friends already knew.

I know you're also probably thinking 'You should come out to your parents first!' But I have good reasons why I didn't. My Dad especially is usually extremely homophobic and my Mother cringes every time a gay person is on TV.

Also, I knew I could trust and rely on many of my friends and family more than I could rely on my parents not to judge me. Sounds really bad, but I just couldn't.

Anyway, you should all know that the whole experience has been quite strange, but I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Turns out, they weren't overjoyed, but my Dad took it way better than I thought.

I encourage anyone to come out to their parents, but only when they feel they are ready. You'll feel so much better when you have.

I've also started the poll (on the right). Tell me if you've come out or not yet, and leave a comment to explain you have or haven't!

Some coming out stories in the comments might be interesting too!

Ladyhawke Comes Out!

Yep, that's a third celebrity outing on the blog this year.

For any of you who don't know, Ladyhawke is a New Zealand electro-pop goddess.

Her album titled 'Ladyhawke' won 8 awards in 2009 in NZ alone. It's really quite good, obviously. I'm a huge fan.

This is also why I felt the need to tell you, 'cause she really is amazing at what she does, and this news makes her even better!

Apparently, she came out in an interview with Stuff, and is in a fully-committed lesbian relationship.

Awesome.

Amy Winehouse Comes Out

You've probably already heard about it, but Ms. Amy Winehouse is the second Brit this year to have come out of the closet!

Amy, who is best known for her soulful songs such as Rehab and Back To Black, recently came out after she admitted she had a crush on Britain's answer to Megan Fox, Girls Aloud beauty Cheryl Cole.

Apparently, Amy said:

"So what? I like girls as well. I have had relationships with other women but that doesn't mean I don't still love Blake. There is something about being with a woman that is very satisfying. I don't care what people think about me being bi — I do what feels good."

I, for one, never saw this coming. We often hear of Amy's undying love for Blake in the news, but it's nice that she felt that need to be honest and let us know.

Oh Amy, we do love you.

First Celesbian Outing of the Year...

As far as I know, British singer Lady Sovereign is the first Celesbian to come out of the closet this year.

For the record Sov, when you look like that, we already know you're gay. ;)

Anyway, just last week, pint-sized Sov came out on the British version of Celebrity Big Brother.

As soon as she entered the house, the show's presenter, Davina McCall, began rumours claiming that little Sov was a great dyke.

And guess what?

She was right!

Last year was a great year for lesbian and bisexual celebrities coming out of the closet, gaining more visibility for 'our kind'.

I'm sure we all have a list of starlets who we wish were gay and also a list of who we know are gay but just haven't confirmed it yet. (Think Jodie Foster.)

But who will be next?

I have my fingers crossed for Jessica Capshaw. (Yes, I know she's married. To a man. Just let me dream, dammit!)

Clem Does It Again.

I've blogged time and time again about the coming out and going back in of The L Word star Clementine Ford. But hopefully, this is the last time I'm going to have to mention Cybill Shepherd's daughter for a while because... CLEMENTINE IS ACTUALLY GAY!


And for real this time: we can officially label Ford a new addition to our list of celesbian friends.

Clem finally cracked this week and said:

I am gay. I just wanted there not to be this big emphasis on it. There are people who get it, and get what my original meaning was. Just as I was talking about storylines being a non issue on The L Word; it should just be these people are gay and it’s part of life. I think with that article, and what came across as ambiguity, was actually my attempt at making it a non issue.

So there you have it, the 'ambiguity' stops there. Welcome to the fold, Ford.

Clementine Ford comes out!

I for one thinks that Clementine Ford, daughter of legendary actress Cybill Shepherd and currently the star of original lesbian TV series The L Word, is totally talented and extremely hot.

So when she mentioned in the February edition of UK lesbian and bisexual magazine 'Diva' that she preferred not to label herself, imagine how happy I was.

Ford said "I never want to put a label on myself — but knowing that not everyone comes from such a liberal place, when something like Prop 8 comes out, you realize it’s important to stand up and be counted. A little gay kid in a small town is more important than whether I want a label."

There has been speculation over whether the lovely lady is gay or bisexual, but my guess is that she is bisexual, as she has been married to a guy before... Still, great visibility for us homos!

She also told the magazine that her and her siblings would bring both guys and girls home, and 'as long as they were human, it didn't matter.' Amen to that!

For an unbearably charming video of Clementine, go here to watch her being harassed by lesbian comedy legend Liz Feldman.